These qualities can complicate the life of others, but yours will definitely make you better.
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1. Stubbornness
The words “here are the stubborn” is difficult to take for a compliment. Usually they are pronounced by a person who was exhausted, unsuccessfully trying to convince you. It seems that you must be ashamed immediately, but you don’t need to do this.
Stubbornness can be different. If you say no out of harmfulness in a situation where it is more profitable and correct to say yes, then, indeed, you should think about. You should figure out why it is more important for you to go against the speaker than to do rationally.
But more often stubbornness does not harm you, but helps you.
Remember, when you were trying to feed you with semolina in childhood, and you did not open your mouth, cried, spit it out. So you showed that you don’t want to eat porridge. In adulthood, they try to “feed” you worse things: injustice, extra duties, and so on. It is logical that your opponent would like it more if you chewed silently. But you have grown and can fight back. So stubbornness only helps you defend your boundaries.
2. Indifference
Indifference has become a trend, and this is good. People actively defend their views, support the offended, speak out against the guilty, sacrifice money for charity. And still get reproaches. “Here you say that you advocate the rights of political prisoners, and you don’t want to publish an announcement of a homeless animal,” the society tells us and writes to us in the ranks of blue and heartless.
In fact, if you take everything close to heart, you can go crazy. There is too much injustice, pain, suffering in the world. Just open any news feed. If you let every message through yourself, there will be little from you.
The ability to remain indifferent and healthy cynicism help to defend itself from the surrounding reality. Being an activist is good and right, but only when you have the strength for it.
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3. Emotionality
In Russian mentality there is a kind of cult of a stone person. It would be clear if only emotions were condemned, which are considered negative – anger, resentment, fear. But the joy of demonstrating is not accepted. This is laid even in proverbs and sayings: “I laugh a lot – you will cry a lot”, “Laughter for no reason is a sign of foolishness”. From childhood, emotional people pull, especially boys.
But it is obvious that a person has emotions for a reason. Moreover, they are not divided into good and bad, it is just a response to external events and internal insights. Of course, it is good to understand your reactions and manage them – for example, to restrain anger if you communicate with the client. But understanding feelings is very difficult if you never give yourself the right to be emotional.
Moreover, if emotions are suppressed too long, they will still find a way out – only intensifying many times. Or will begin to destroy you from the inside.
So allow yourself to cry over the compassionate film, laugh at the videos on YouTube and get angry with a person who drove along a puddle and doused you with water from head to toe.
4. Conflict
It’s good to be calm, non -conflict and everyone likes. For example, a person took your place in the cinema – is it difficult for you to transfer. The cashier did not give back the change – but this is some penny. The colleague went on vacation and outweighed about you with Dedlin last week – but do not ruin the relationship. In general, everyone around is good when you are calm and non -conflict.
But when you are ready to openly enter into confrontation, you are sitting in the place that you have chosen, do not do their work for others and feel pretty well.
5. Immodesty
From childhood we have been taught not to stick out. It is believed that no one loves up the ramps at school. So, if you learn a lesson or have some talent, do not show it until they are forced to: call you to the board or ask to sing. And then we transfer all this to adult life and silently wait for the boss will notice our good work and increase the salary. And if someone praises us, we instantly devalue the compliment:
– Oh, you draw so cool.
– Come on, it’s just a daub.
No one will call you a magazine anymore to find out that you have learned the lesson better than anyone else.
Everyone has talents and strengths. Know them and not be afraid to talk about them is an important skill that will make your life better.
6. Laziness
“You are just too lazy” is a convenient phrase in order to make someone (or yourself) to do what you don’t want to do without any explanation and motivation. The word “laziness” settled next to his brother “. But sometimes instead of being ashamed and overcoming, it is better to stop and think.
You can be lazy because the action seems to you meaningless. For example, we bought a dishwasher and a robot permissive, and all older relatives now consider you a lazy person of the 80th level. Or sabotage the matter because it was imposed on you against your will. Or have already done their part of the work the faster than anyone and do not want to help anyone – you have the right.
Finally, laziness may be a good indicator that you are tired, burned out or depressed. If you are not happy with anything else and you barely have enough strength to watch the series in bed, this is a serious symptom. You will make self -flagellation only worse.
So you do not need to fight with laziness (you need to be able to relax). But it is better to listen to her.
7. Meticulousness
People who want to get to the very essence, to understand the details, get to the bottom of the smallest details, are often accused of boring. But meticulousness is useful for you personally and for society.
Let’s say you can just take a mortgage. And you can first think about the strategy of its repayment and develop several plans, depending on how your financial condition changes. In general, lay straws and not worry. Or you can give a large amount on a receipt only for receipt (even a friend). It seems like a formality, but it will be easier to return your money.
And also meticulous people – the orderlies of the intellectual forest. It often happens: someone in the company carries outright heresy, referring to “some research”. There is a great risk that these data will spread further: “And you heard, the earth is flat! Yes, scientists have proved!’Only the same meticulous person can save the situation. It is he who will not accept the word on faith, google information, double -check it by authoritative sources, and then also tell the terrible truth to all those present.
If meticulousness is a feature of your character, Lie her. If you do not have it, try to be more attentive to the details at least where it is critical.
You can listen to the article. If you are more convenient for you, turn on the podcast.
Listen to 7 “bad” character traits that you do not need to fight Yandex.Music
1. Stubbornness
The words “here are the stubborn” is difficult to take for a compliment. Usually they are pronounced by a person who was exhausted, unsuccessfully trying to convince you. It seems that you must be ashamed immediately, but you don’t need to do this.
Stubbornness can be different. If you say no out of harmfulness in a situation where it is more profitable and correct to say yes, then, indeed, you should think about. You should figure out why it is more important for you to go against the speaker than to do rationally.
But more often stubbornness does not harm you, but helps you.
Remember, when you were trying to feed you with semolina in childhood, and you did not open your mouth, cried, spit it out. So you showed that you don’t want to eat porridge. In adulthood, they try to “feed” you worse things: injustice, extra duties, and so on. It is logical that your opponent would like it more if you chewed silently. But you have grown and can fight back. So stubbornness only helps you defend your boundaries.
2. Indifference
Indifference has become a trend, and this is good. People actively defend their views, support the offended, speak out against the guilty, sacrifice money for charity. And still get reproaches. “Here you say that you advocate the rights of political prisoners, and you don’t want to publish an announcement of a homeless animal,” the society tells us and writes to us in the ranks of blue and heartless.
In fact, if you take everything close to heart, you can go crazy. There is too much injustice, pain, suffering in the world. Just open any news feed. If you let every message through yourself, there will be little from you.
The ability to remain indifferent and healthy cynicism help to defend itself from the surrounding reality. Being an activist is good and right, but only when you have the strength for it.
Now read 🎉
- 5 situations when a surprise is a bad idea
3. Emotionality
In Russian mentality there is a kind of cult of a stone person. It would be clear if only emotions were condemned, which are considered negative – anger, resentment, fear. But the joy of demonstrating is not accepted. This is laid even in proverbs and sayings: “I laugh a lot – you will cry a lot”, “Laughter for no reason is a sign of foolishness”. From childhood, emotional people pull, especially boys.
But it is obvious that a person has emotions for a reason. Moreover, they are not divided into good and bad, it is just a response to external events and internal insights. Of course, it is good to understand your reactions and manage them – for example, to restrain anger if you communicate with the client. But understanding feelings is very difficult if you never give yourself the right to be emotional.
Moreover, if emotions are suppressed too long, they will still find a way out – only intensifying many times. Or will begin to destroy you from the inside.
So allow yourself to cry over the compassionate film, laugh at the videos on YouTube and get angry with a person who drove along a puddle and doused you with water from head to toe.
4. Conflict
It’s good to be calm, non -conflict and everyone likes. For example, a person took your place in the cinema – is it difficult for you to transfer. The cashier did not give back the change – but this is some penny. The colleague went on vacation and outweighed about you with Dedlin last week – but do not ruin the relationship. In general, everyone around is good when you are calm and non -conflict.
But when you are ready to openly enter into confrontation, you are sitting in the place that you have chosen, do not do their work for others and feel pretty well.
5. Immodesty
From childhood we have been taught not to stick out. It is believed that no one loves up the ramps at school. So, if you learn a lesson or have some talent, do not show it until they are forced to: call you to the board or ask to sing. And then we transfer all this to adult life and silently wait for the boss will notice our good work and increase the salary. And if someone praises us, we instantly devalue the compliment:
– Oh, you draw so cool.
– Come on, it’s just a daub.
No one will call you a magazine anymore to find out that you have learned the lesson better than anyone else.
Everyone has talents and strengths. Know them and not be afraid to talk about them is an important skill that will make your life better.
6. Laziness
“You are just too lazy” is a convenient phrase in order to make someone (or yourself) to do what you don’t want to do without any explanation and motivation. The word “laziness” settled next to his brother “. But sometimes instead of being ashamed and overcoming, it is better to stop and think.
You can be lazy because the action seems to you meaningless. For example, we bought a dishwasher and a robot permissive, and all older relatives now consider you a lazy person of the 80th level. Or sabotage the matter because it was imposed on you against your will. Or have already done their part of the work the faster than anyone and do not want to help anyone – you have the right.
Finally, laziness may be a good indicator that you are tired, burned out or depressed. If you are not happy with anything else and you barely have enough strength to watch the series in bed, this is a serious symptom. You will make self -flagellation only worse.
So you do not need to fight with laziness (you need to be able to relax). But it is better to listen to her.
7. Meticulousness
People who want to get to the very essence, to understand the details, get to the bottom of the smallest details, are often accused of boring. But meticulousness is useful for you personally and for society.
Let’s say you can just take a mortgage. And you can first think about the strategy of its repayment and develop several plans, depending on how your financial condition changes. In general, lay straws and not worry. Or you can give a large amount on a receipt only for receipt (even a friend). It seems like a formality, but it will be easier to return your money.
And also meticulous people – the orderlies of the intellectual forest. It often happens: someone in the company carries outright heresy, referring to “some research”. There is a great risk that these data will spread further: “And you heard, the earth is flat! Yes, scientists have proved!’Only the same meticulous person can save the situation. It is he who will not accept the word on faith, google information, double -check it by authoritative sources, and then also tell the terrible truth to all those present.
If meticulousness is a feature of your character, Lie her. If you do not have it, try to be more attentive to the details at least where it is critical.